The holidays can be a challenging time for children coping with the loss of a loved one. The excitement of the season, paired with feelings of grief, can create mixed emotions that are hard for kids to process. Here are some gentle ways to support your grieving child during this season:
Acknowledge Their Feelings: Encourage your child to share how they’re feeling and validate those emotions, whether they’re sad, angry, or confused. Letting them know it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions can be reassuring and help them feel understood.
Create Space for Remembrance: Children often benefit from ways to feel connected to the person they've lost. You might light a candle, hang a special ornament, or share a story. Inviting your child to help create a small tradition or remembrance activity can make them feel involved in honouring their loved one’s memory.
Maintain Routines and Structure: While holidays can disrupt regular schedules, keeping routines in place where possible can provide a comforting sense of stability. Sticking to bedtime, mealtime, and other daily rituals can help children feel secure and supported.
Offer Choices and Flexibility: Every child grieves differently, and some may want to participate in holiday activities while others may not. Let them know they can decide how involved they want to be and give them choices that respect their feelings, like attending a holiday event for just a short time or having a quiet night in instead.
Be Patient and Present: Your child might need extra patience, comfort, or simply time with you. Listen, give hugs, and show empathy when they’re struggling. Being present and letting them know they’re not alone can be a tremendous comfort.
Remember, navigating the holidays while grieving is challenging, but with understanding and love, you can help your child find moments of peace and connection. By honouring both their emotions and the memories of their loved ones, you can make the season a little gentler.